Past, Present and Future: Italians, Drag Queens and an English Pub

Hey Guys,

Well, what a weekend! So I started my new job last week and worked three shifts, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, then my weekend was Thursday, Friday.

So Thursday I went and got my haircut, bought a couple of new ties for work and a few other things, so it was a nice productive day. Thursday night, Mellise and I decided to go out on the Shore, so we tried Reservoire, got there and it was busy, but quiet. So we ordered a cocktail and sat down to drink it. Before we had reached the bottom of our glass, the bar had transformed into a night club and dancing began. It wasnt too much of a late night, which was good as I don't think I was prepared for the weekend that followed.

Friday afternoon, one of my best girl friends (we shall call her Tulip) from home was coming up with three of her mates to go and see Priscilla Queen of the Desert at the Civic in the city. So we met them when they finally arrived at about five (I think, it was so long ago). So we went to their motel and sat around eating cheese and crackers and the ladies drunk wine. After many funny conversations we decided to walk up the street to have dinner. Now, we were a bit spoilt for choice. Hells Pizza, Thai, Italian, Turkish Kebabs, in short walking distance, so we paced the streets and decided on Italian. Now, we approached the door, as it swung open and our introduction was a yelling Italian man, I have no idea what he was saying, but it sure was different. So we all huddled inside the foyer from the freezing of outside and Tulip asked if they had a table for nine people. Now if you were keeping score, theres only six of us, Mellise and myself, and Tulip and three of her friends. The guys, all authentic Italians, replied, "No" After we finally convinced them that Tulip is a smart ass and theres actually only six of us, they squeezed us in the corner. Insert very attractive Italian waiter, I seriously swooned when I saw him. And everyone agreed, he was gorgeous. So the ladies decided it was their mission to pretty much set me up with him. By the end of the night, after a two course meal and Sambuca shot to compliment, they had found out his name, his girlfriends name and even had asked him if I stood a chance, his response was "Maybe in my next life" He was completely sweet about the situation and I think he was a bit chuffed with it too.

The entire experience of dinner is hard to explain, it was amzing. The atmosphere of this tiny restaurant is warm and welcoming and so very entertaining. If you are in the city of Auckland, you must go to Gina's Pizza and Pasta Bar in Newton.

So after dinner we returned to the Motel and had a few drinks and I had mentioned the Drag show that they do down at Family every Friday night at 1am-ish. Tulip and one of her other friends was keen to go down and watch it. So at midnight we went down to Family and waited. Now, if you get me in a dance bar, whether Im drunk or sober, I dance. And dance I did. The drag show came and went as I danced and danced. Tulip and her friend left at 3:30. And I still continued dancing. Mellise and I finally got home at 4:50am and I had to be at work at 8am! Well that didnt quite happen to plan. Stumbled into work at 8:40, not too bad considering my alarm didnt even go off.

So after work Saturday, which I survived, Tulip text me and said that the show was AMAZING! And I text back and asked her where she was. They were at a pub in the city about to have dinner. So obviously we joined them, at Danny Doolans. Had dinner and listened to some guy playing his guitar. After we finished our meals, I had Toad in a Hole, very nice, we moved on to a couple of bars and had a drink. The ladies began to fade away so we were back at the motel by 11, which was good for me because I didnt want to be late to work again.

Got home at midnight and got to work on time!

Go with the flow!

Past, Present and Future: New Job, Poker and a Fender Bender

Hey Guys,

Well I started my new job today! Was a very good day, the people are great (most of them) and I'm picking it all up pretty well (I think). My manager is great, easy going, straight up, and totally gorgeous (there maybe lines to read between here, lol) The day went super quick, which is always good in a new job. I mean, considering the amount of nothing I did at times, it still went fast. Had training after work, so that was free pizza and pepsi, while listening to a guy talk about iMac's, very interesting, considering I know nothing about them.

So Training finished at about 7, which gave me half hour to get home and then shoot down to Poker, which for the first time, we actually turned up early for!

Had a really good night, ended up with 6th Place, so thats not too bad at all.

I don't know if you've picked my mood, I dont think you would've, considering, its not overly translating into my text, however, the fact that I'm uninspired to type a long blog is because, after three and a half hours of Poker and ONLY three drinks, I reversed into a brick wall. Yes, thats what I said.

I mean, c'mon, there wasnt even another car involved. I reversed into a stationary object! Sadly, the wall came out better off. So, let me paint the picture.

On the way out of the Bar, I started telling my flatmate a story. The story was put on hold as I got into the car and as she did the same. Now, the car was reverse parked on a hill. So to get out of the park, all I had to do was put the car in "Drive" and then accelerate forward. So my story continued as I whacked the car into gear. Now, fearing that the car may move backwards when I took my foot off the break, I over accelerated to get us up the hill, before hitting the wall. BUT, and yes, you guessed it. After parking the car up a driveway for a year and having to put it into reverse every time I got into it, old habits clearly die hard (not saying that I put my car directly into reverse every time I get in it though, I mean there are many factors which contributed to it). The car went hurtling into the wall!

Thats all I shall say! As I need to sleep it off :)

Go with the flow!

Past, Present and Future: TV, Radio and to be a Murderer

Hey Guys,

Now before I start, I want you all to know, I had a very good day, despite what you will read at the end of this post, I had a good day =)

Well today was a very interesting day. As I said in a previous post, South Pacific Pictures are currently filming a new TV series called "Go Girls" and that they were filming a scene at my work today. When we arrived at work today we were struck by about ten truck and trailers and a few caravans parked outside work and along the street. Work was overrun with film crew and the cast for the new series.

Just after I started work I got a phone call from the guy down at Harvey Norman and they want to have an interview with me, which will take place tomorrow morning at 9:30, so I will update you on how that goes.




Anyway, during smoko, one of the bosses at work asked us if we wanted to go downstairs and watch them do a shot. I was totally keen. So I went down and they shoved me in a corner where I wouldn't be in the way and watched the shot on the monitors. It was all very quick and intriguing, but I had to get back to work. Also got to see Angela Bloomfield, she was directing, man shes tiny!



They were finished filming by lunch time, which was stink, 'cause I was going to grab a few photos, but I missed out on that opportunity. Oh well.



The fun went on into the afternoon while I was listening to Classic Hits, Jason Reeves was doing his thing when he asked a TXT question "How much will the winner win on the series, "NEW ZEALANDS GOT TALENT"? So I sent my SMS and turned my phone onto loud so if I won, I'd hear the call. Anyway, moments later, my phone rings and its, no second guesses, Jase from the radio station. My answer of $100,000 was the first correct answer and I had won, "what?" I hear you ask. Some DVD that he said would be good to give to a special woman in my life. LOL so yea. But, still, I won something off the radio, too cool.



And now to cover the Murderer section of this blog. I was talking to a co-worker today who I work with right next to him, and have done for the passed three weeks, for 8hours a day, five days a week, so we talk about alot of things. Today, religion came up, he (we shall call him Mark) is a religious person, goes to church and does all that thing, me, Im an Atheist, but I have an open mind, but still, I dont believe everything thats written in a book. Anyway, I told him I didnt want to go into the Creation/Evolution debate and he was cool with that, but the conversation still went into beliefs and Christianity. I asked him alot of questions, "Sex before marraige?" "Drugs and Alcohol?" and the most obvious question "Whats your Churches view on Gays and Lesbians?" and Mark went on to answer something along these lines,

"Its a sin. It is no different to the sins of a murderer or a rapist. How can they say it's something they're born with when God doesn't make people murderers at birth, its a choice, its a sin"

WHAT? LOL

Now, this obviously got my blood boiling, but I had asked the question and I was prepared for the answer. I really did it more for the entertainment of the answer. I don't care what his church thinks, it doesn't change me at all. I love who I am and thats all that matters (for the record, he clearly does not know Im gay).

So yeah, thats that! Sadly my opinion on Mark as a person has changed now that I know this small piece of information, but thats fine, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and I will make sure that I "macho" it up around him 'cause I sure as hell don't want him preaching to me!

Go with the flow!

Boy Chronicles: About a Boy

Hey Guys,

Well I want to introduce you all to my bestfriend, due to closet issues, we will call him JB (which refers to Jim Beam, my spirit of choice). Now, JB and I have known each other for a long time, but only just started hanging out about seven months ago. We pretty much spent every weekend together and had a blast. He knew the entire time that I was gay. Now a month before I moved to Auckland, he decided to tell me, and I quote "I like boys too"

We stayed up talking ALL night, about anything and everything, I obviously accepted him, I mean, why wouldnt I? I respected him for telling me, but wondered why he took so long to tell me.

He went home about 2am-ish and then came back around the next day which is when we kissed.

We decided, that still with the knowledge that I was leaving, we would make the most of our final month together and just enjoy it. Which we did and it was great. Seriously, it was GREAT!

The "relationship" is over, but the friendship is stronger than ever, which I love, but I cant help but feel, that if I start seeing someone, that I'd be cheating on him.

We knew when we went into it that we never wanted to try the long distance thing. Maybe everything happened the way it was suppose to? Maybe the one month we had together was to push our friendship that much closer and hold it there and only there. I dunno.

All I can say is mine and JB's story is very much still being scribed.

Go with the flow guys!

Entertainment Plug: Go Girls

PULLING THE PLUG ON EVERYTHING ENTERTAINING

The guys and gals down at South Pacific Pictures and writers from Outrageous Fortune and Mercy Peak have come together to create a new primetime TV series. Go Girls (rumoured to also be titled Shore Girls) follows the lives of three twenty-something females from the North Shore, they vow that in one years time, the three of them will turn their lives around and become, rich, famous and married.

Click on the link for SPP for more details above.

Another thing is the girls have a very good friend Kevin, played by the very spunky, Jay Ryan-

Another very cool thing, is the guys are filming down at my work in Albany. They've turned our foyer and boardroom into what is rumoured to be a radio station. Heres a couple of pictures I got of the "Office" location which they set up in our boardroom.

I was told by my source that the series will air on TV2 in September 2008.

Past, Present and Future: Coming Out

Hey guys,

Everyone who has come out, has a story, this is mine:

It was mid 2006, me and my girlfriend and a couple of our mates were hanging out in my room, drinking and playing Buzz. The night was pretty uneventful until my girlfriend bought up the "gay' topic. Something I've lived with my entire life is bullying! For as long as I can remember of school, I was the subject of bullying, so words like "gay" and "fag" etc don't overly phase me much nowadays. Anyway, she asked me if I was interested in guys, and at the time, with me not being ready to come out, denied it. She had said that all of her friends were mocking her for being a fag hag, some friends aye? And that they were telling her that I was gay and we shouldnt be together. After everyone went home, her and I continued texting each other and I told her I was Bi. She loved it. For her, to have a boyfriend who also liked guys was a novelty.

So this got the ball rolling. This gave me the courage to tell my sister and bestfriend, Toria. But I couldn't say it to her face, but I wanted to. I asked her if it was okay if I told her something HUGE through a text and she said, whatever I was comfortable with. So I sent her an SMS and told her I was Bi. During this conversation, it was the first and last time I cried over it. My sister fully supported me, which gave me the confidence to tell more and more people.

Over the next few months I told more and more of my close friends, coming out as Bi.

Then December 2006 I met a guy. I went to my sister for advice and asked her what I should do. My decision was to either:
-Come out to my parents and then pursue this guy, or
-Pursue this guy and then come out to my parents.

I decided to tell my parents first. It was a couple of days after christmas when I decided to do it. I got home from work and I was lingering around mum and dad all afternoon. They could tell something was up and I told them I wanted to tell them something. My nerves on a scale of one to ten were sitting at 40! They begin to guess what I wanted to tell them, which was more frustrating, and because all of their guesses were completely off the mark I began to giggle, uncontrollably, it was combination of nerves and frustration. Frustration because I couldnt say three simple words "I AM GAY"

I ended up talking the easy way out and told them that I was Bi. After they had attempted to guess everything under the sun, Dad said that he knew what it was, and I said, "What do you reckon it is?" and he says "You're gay" and I quickly countered with "Im Bi"
To me personally, it was me chickening out. I knew I was gay and that there was no chance of me ever happily marrying some girl and playing happy families. But it was easier for me. But at the same time, I gave them false hopes.

Mum was shocked, more so than Dad, which surprised me. I gave them a few hours to come to terms with it and then returned to the room they were in. Then came the questions, which I was completely happy with and was expecting.
The biggest question and the one Im sure we will all get asked is "How do you know?"
My answer was this: "You just do. How does someone know that they like dogs over cats? They just know. Its something deep down inside that tells you this is who you are"

All in all, my coming out story has been a positive experience. I was lucky enough to have a completely supportive and loving family and I am yet to have a bad experience (I've had minor bad experiences but nothing too grand).

So you can take from my story that not all coming out stories are as bad as you will first think. I had convinced myself years ago that me coming out will devestate everyone I know and love and that they will reject me and kick me to the curb. I was completely wrong.

Adventure Continues: The Prequel

Hey Guys,

Well I want to start my story about nine months ago when I broke up with my boyfriend. Not going to go into too much detail about that period of my life, except for the fact that he prompted my coming out. I met him christmas 2006 and decided that it was about time to tell my parents, I will cover this more in depth in another post, anyway, after we broke up and I moved back home, I decided I wanted to leave town, this was something I had always wanted to do but never dedicated myself to the idea. So I began to save up, which was a struggle as Im not much of a saver and later set the date. Over this period, my Mother left my Father for another man and things got messy in that respect. Also, my sister decided that she would make a life changing move herself and moved to the capital city of Wellington about two months before I made my move. So my family has pretty much imploded and none of us kids live in our home town anymore. My family can be kind of complicated to understand, I have three sisters and a brother, I'll introduce them in depth in another post. So anyway, mid last month (May) I made the move to the city of Auckland where I am now living with my best friend and faghag Mellise.